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“Candy”, “CooCoo”, “Mamma”, “Granny”, “Queen”, and “Miss Fannie” were all the names she answered to.
Born Fannie Elizabeth Cotton on March 7, 1927 in Baton Rouge, Louisiana to Edward and Elizabeth Cotton. She was the fourth child of five children and the last surviving sibling. She had a loving childhood and spent most of her growing years playing with her youngest brother, Vernon who she had to continually keep out of trouble.
She attended Southern University, joined the Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority and earned a degree in physical education. Soon after graduating she moved north to live with her older brother Anthony to seek employment. It was during this time that she met Henry W. Cockfield who she eventually married and spent 48 loving years with until his passing.
Their marriage bore three children, Ross Anthony; Kay Elizabeth; and Susan Lynn Mae.
She was a woman of many talents which included sewing, craft making (candles and pottery), cooking, and she even had an interest in auto mechanics. She loved shoes. Her life was punctuated and characterized by the love and caring she displayed to all she met. She never cursed or rarely had harsh words for anyone and always presented herself as someone born of royalty. She cared for and respected everyone she met and received the same in return.
She was an amazing woman and if you ever had the opportunity to be in her presence you knew just how amazing she was. She was God fearing - having been ordained as a minister - , kind, gentle, patient, very passionate about her beliefs, non judgmental (always a judgment free zone) and gave the best advice. She loved unconditionally. She would say these sayings or phrases like “put it in your pocket” if she detected attitude or put up her finger and say “before you speak, is it kind or necessary? Often it was neither. Some of her other favorites were “People that judge don’t matter and people that matter don’t judge.” “Using up your chances is the worst kind of extravagance”, and probably our most favored is “Beginnings are scary, endings are usually sad but the middle is the most important part of life.”
She is survived by her son and daughter, Ross (Carolyn deceased) and Susan (Edward); (Kay deceased). Grandchildren Kianna, Major, Mone, Edward, Zahra, Erica, Toure, David, Christopher, Lisa and a host of great grandchildren, nieces, nephews, and friends.
A special word of sincere heartfelt thanks goes to the following women who, over different periods of time, worked tirelessly to aid and assist our mother during the last years of her life. “Tina’s Angels” - Tina Minor, Donna Hill, Arthera Williams, Charlene Coleman, June Ervin, Louise Ferebee, Michelle Lawshe, LaToya Kent, Julie Jordan and Shaina Blade. “A-1 Caregivers” - Serreta Kincaid, Twyla Yancy, and Juliette Patterson. They all supplied an unmatched degree of care for our mother and became part of our family in the process.
We’re going to miss her but she left us with all the tools we need to move on without her. She’s with the ancestors yet will continue to watch over us. We thank God for blessing us with her life; she now resides in the Lord's mansion.